Do you have, or sense you might have ADHD? Do you need support?

Do you feel like you don’t belong?

Does life feel chaotic? Is your mind in a constant spin bouncing from one thing to another and back again? Are you flooded by the constant confusion of losing and forgetting things? Do you find it hard to manage relationships, finances, work – life itself?

You may have spent years feeling overwhelmed and wondering what is ‘wrong’ with you, longing to feel ‘normal’, longing to feel accepted. Perhaps, you feel that nobody understands you and have a constant feeling of self-loathing and hopelessness.

As a person-centred, trauma informed Accredited ADHD specialist psychotherapist, I will help you understand your unique ADHD symptoms and celebrate your brilliant neurodivergent self.

With my deeply compassionate way of working, we will tentatively begin to repair the chaos, the limiting beliefs, and heal the loss and grief ADHD may have brought to your life.

As a woman with ADHD myself I know how you feel…. (you can read more about my story below).

There are two ways to work with me, one-to-one ADHD focused psychotherapy sessions or by joining my upcoming online course, starting in November.

Either way, the best place to start is with my free video series…

As a person-centred, trauma informed Accredited ADHD specialist psychotherapist, I will help you understand your unique ADHD symptoms and celebrate your brilliant neurodivergent self.

With my deeply compassionate way of working, we will tentatively begin to repair the chaos, the limiting beliefs, and heal the loss and grief ADHD may have brought to your life.

As a woman with ADHD myself I know how you feel…. (you can read more about my story below).

There are two ways to work with me, one-to-one ADHD focused psychotherapy sessions or by joining my upcoming online course, starting in February.

Either way, the best place to start is with my free video series…

How to live authentically with ADHD group programme

An online group programme for women with ADHD

Do you often feel like a chaotic misfit muddling through life - if you could just try harder, or change fundamental parts of yourself you could fit it and feel ‘normal’?

Have you been searching tirelessly for the ultimate solution to change all the ways you despise yourself, but you are still the same?

Perhaps you keep waiting for the morning you’ll wake up free from the excruciating existence of relentless self-criticism and despair?

Strategies and techniques are NOT the solution – they only add unnecessary pressure to the ADHD mind and body.

To live well with ADHD, we are missing the bigger picture if we are only focusing on symptom management, and altering or correcting ourselves.

To transform our lives towards meaning and connection, we must learn to:

Become and value who we truly are
Untangle shame-based narratives
Nurture old wounds that keep coming up in the present
Unlink our brain-based difficulties from our core sense of self

Find out more about the ADHD 6-week Programme

YOU DON'T HAVE TO DO THIS ALONE

In a group of other ADHD women, there’s immediate relief in knowing you’re not alone and profound power in coming together with others who walk a similar path. Through shared stories and collective wisdom, you'll experience genuine belonging along with courage and compassion as you share and witness each other's powerful stories.

My psychosomatic method of change is a lifeline to wholeness.

Developed from decades of training and wisdom this group process is a ‘journey into neurodivergent wholeness’ through commitment to deep self-discovery and therapy focused breathwork.

This course is designed to

Empower you to break free from the endless cycle of self-doubt and criticism, so that you stand grounded within your ADHD uniqueness with confidence and pride.
Help you trust your own judgement and innate wisdom by connecting with the power of your heart and inner truth, allowing you to navigate emotional storms and moments of dysregulation with resilience.
Guide you in tuning into the inner wisdom of your body so that you can calm the mental turbulence of your ADHD brain and discover stillness within the chaos.
Reveal the quiet power within you to navigate any situation with creativity, clarity, and self-trust so that you can move forward free of shame, lit by possibility.

My ADHD story

I spent most of my life longing to fit in – ‘belong’. I found it difficult to make friends and join in with conversation and felt like a square peg in a round hole in social situations.

I tried so hard to be different, to force myself into uncomfortable situations and ‘make more effort’, believing that by doing this, I would get used to it and start to enjoy myself.

All this did was make me feel even worse and frazzle my nervous system. I used to give myself such a hard time and felt a lot of shame and anger. I hid behind a mask, desperately trying to hold it all together and would then go home and feel completely drained.

I believed that nobody liked me; the most painful thing was being in any group situation, the marching band I played in, the hockey team, college, uni, training courses. I couldn’t work in an office, the environment was too over stimulating – the noise, the people, the pressure to perform. I had to listen to my needs and work on my own, initially as a holistic therapist then as a psychotherapist.

I was always clumsy, forgetful, unorganized, messy, reactive, constantly losing things, hyperfocused on creative hobbies, late, a perfectionist, restless, procrastinating, the list goes on.

My hormones have always been all over the place with my menstrual cycle making me even more ‘reactive’ and peri menopause has ramped things up even more.

After so many years of working to improve my emotional wellbeing, I was finally diagnosed with ADHD in 2023.

When I learned about ADHD, everything began to make perfect sense…

I realised I was never going to ‘fit in’ in a neurotypical world. And that’s ok

I came to realise that I was always going to be ‘different’. I was never going to ‘fit in’ in a neurotypical world, and I could even let go of trying. I would always be a ‘scatterbrain,’ muddled, disorganised and messy. I was always going to be feisty yet introverted, I was always going to be driven, hyper focused, yet totally forgetful.

I would often feel overwhelmed in the environment and want to run and hide. I would easily feel dysregulated and need a dopamine boost (food). I would always feel exhausted.

Deep inner work, therapy, cycle awareness and breathwork have been my saving grace.

Now, I feel free to be me, unapologetically. After years of shame, I don’t feel I have to hide. I know myself more than ever, and I recognise and honour my limits - which means I’m kinder to myself, and more forgiving. Where I was always on edge, I’m now softer, calmer, at home in myself.

And that’s why I now focus on working with people with ADHD, helping them to manage their emotions and release the trauma of living with ADHD in a world that doesn’t get it. Together we can find our way through the dark, towards peace and healing.

I would often feel overwhelmed in the environment and want to run and hide. I would easily feel dysregulated and need a dopamine boost (food). I would always feel exhausted.

Deep inner work, therapy, cycle awareness and breathwork have been my saving grace.

How working one-to-one with me can help…

Your ADHD focused therapy journey will lead you to :-

More lightness, clarity, and a reduction in the stress and anxiety that comes from feeling like a fish out of water, and constantly keeping it together in a world that doesn’t get you.
Increased resilience and self-trust, as you come home to yourself, find the missing pieces and embrace how your unique brain and body work.
More freedom in your body, as you release long-held tension; the weight on your shoulders, the knot in your stomach, the weariness in your head.
More self-belief, self-acceptance and self-compassion in place of the anger, self-blame and frustration you may currently experience.
Healing the traumas that have come from living with ADHD; including broken relationships, lost friendships, financial struggles, missed work opportunities, and unfulfilled longings.
Courage to recognise unhealthy patterns, see what needs to change in your life, and clarity about the inner and outer resources you need to make these changes.
Feeling more hopeful, positive and balanced, with increased confidence in yourself and your future.

Contact Hayley to start working one-to-one

Client testimonials

My experience with Hayley has truly been life-changing, and I cannot speak highly enough of her. Over the past eight months, she has guided me on a journey of self-discovery and growth that I never thought possible. Through a combination of traditional talk therapy, somatic techniques, and breathwork, Hayley has provided me with invaluable tools to better understand myself and navigate challenging emotions. Prior to working with her, I felt overwhelmed by my feelings and lacked healthy coping mechanisms. Now, I feel equipped to face life's ups and downs with more resilience, self-compassion, and self-awareness. Hayley's expertise and kind-hearted, compassionate approach have made a profound difference in my life.

AS, Leigh-on-Sea

I wish when I was a teenager dealing with "my stuff" I had a "Hayley" and knew about breathwork and how it would help with my undiagnosed ADHD/PTSD. It has been a game changer for me now so thank you Hayley!

NJ, Southend

Hayley has had such a positive impact on my life, through her therapy work with me she has given me the space and support to process some difficult emotions, she has encouraged me to be open and embodied. Hayley has helped me to move on from coping mechanisms that no longer serve me. I can’t recommend her enough.

CO, Leigh-on-Sea

From the very first session with Hayley, I have had so many ‘lightbulb moments’ where I have learnt so much about myself. She gives me the space to explore my feelings and I always feel very safe. I’ve spent years trying to understand my thoughts and feelings and it feels that Hayley is what was missing on my journey!

SB, Chelmsford

What a beautiful 3 videos... you described my life basically... Looking forward to meeting you this Saturday at the London ADHD summit... I am really looking forward to it.

I would really love to have some sessions with you in the near future.

BD, London

Finding, and working with Hayley has been truly life changing. I appreciate this sounds cliché but it’s the best way I can describe my experience. We have worked through my diagnosis for severe PMDD, past traumas, relationship difficulties, cycle awareness and self discovery. Hayley has helped me to become more attuned with myself, to find and harness my truth and become a better, healthier version of me.

I have learnt so much, I’m still learning, and I know Hayley is there to support me when needed. I’m truly grateful to Hayley for her time, wisdom and guidance, which has got me through some of my toughest times.

LC, Chelmsford